11 08 2009

Among temporariness we seek permanence. The entire society collectively seeks this. Hence generally most temporary events or incidences are labeled anti-social.

Some examples to explain :

#1 : Take the case of inter gender attraction/liking ; suppose A likes B  person..A’s entire efforts would be to ‘permanentise’ the whole equation with B through ‘marriage’

If B has a thing for one night stands or flings…A’s gonna label B with some anti-social name.

Marriage is legal while Prostitution is illegal. The point is they both exist.

# 2 : Same holds true for any relation. Every relation is a method to make that temporary contact permanent. Friendship, soul mates, love, ‘you like my brother’…’you like my sister’ etc. are just means to seek permanence.

Ever wondered that new close inter gender friendships are rare post marriage. Reason being one cannot seek permanence any more, if they do…it generally becomes anti-social.

Formalities are acceptable while limitless indulgent relationships are not. However they both do exist.

# 3 : Being drunk and behaving a little rowdy on some Saturday night, is a youngsters temporary behaviour. That young guy or gal could be as sincere as anyone else otherwise. If at all a cop finds that person in that temporary state of being rowdy on the street, that might just get termed as ‘anti-social’. But than the society tends to ‘permanentise’ this phenomenon by providing pubs/discs, basically places to be rowdy!!

Pubbing is legal while Drinking in public place is anti social. They both exist.

#4 : Construction / blockage of any kind on a public road is illegal. But a shabby temple existing in d middle of the road is legal. The same temple came into existence as a temporary structure but than if it manages to permanentise itself, by means of faith, wish – full fill fundas, then it becomes socially acceptable.

#5 : In legal parlance Begging is a crime, its illegal. Even the society considers it as a malice. But then we have ‘permanentised’ it in various manners like subsidies, interest free loans, charitable donations, favours etc.

Accepting charity is legal, while begging is a social issue. They both exist.

# 6 : Over a horizon of  few centuries our existence is very temporary. Yet individually and even collectively we are oriented to ‘permanentise’ our lives.

Superman is acceptable while a ‘devdas’ is not socially acceptable. Both are our fantasies, but one of them is termed ‘anti social’.

I can go on and on with such examples. At this point I wish to make it clear that the idea is not ‘society bashing’. Even at very individual level this behaviour occurs. Rather it starts from the individual before it becomes a collective social phenomenon.

The question that comes up is why this happens?

I think it is basic human nature to seek permanence. Reason being the feelings of fear, insecurity and jealousy are so strong that the only way out for an individual is to ‘permanentise’.

So be it. All that I would comment is just not look down upon all that is  ‘anti social’. Its just a different perspective. And more importantly one never knows when it would be ‘permanentised’ !!!

Note : Nothing really is permanent. A permanent state is theoritical. It cannot exist. But the orientation to seek permanence, the idea of feeling secured with what is permanent is real. To describe this orientation as a cognitive process I could not find any word. So the term ‘PERMANENTISE’.

It currently does not have a dictionary meaning.

PS : The thoughts expressed is not an attempt to make a statement on human behaviour. This is just a perspective of an individual called me and that perspective too is temporary. Each situation described above can be viewed from different angles and new fundas can be created. Keep this in mind else the point will be missed.

Quotable Quotes.

1 08 2009

At various points in time, one gets into a variety of situations which are unique and distinct from each other. At such points, while I am going through some certain experience, a flash of thought occurs in mind. Its like a a sudden spark of realisation, an articulation that happens within a blink, on its own; which later when I think of, seems profound.

Off late I had started collecting those sparks that have occured to me during varied emotional states. As I was going through them, even I could not remember as to under what influence I might have thought of them. But in itself they are complete and an interesting read.

Thought to share it here.

“Time is the only healer they say; but then time is the only killer too!!!!!!!!”

“Why do we behave differently on receiving and on giving the same thing? While receiving we take it for granted; just don’t care – but while giving we want the receiver to not take it for granted!!!!!”

They say that “don’t just say, but do”; I say “don’t say, just because you do!!”

“Your heart is calling you with every beat, waitin’ for you to take the call!!!”

“I may not get noticed. I may not be heard. I may not be felt. I may get isolated. I may never be embraced. I may end up being a dream that you never remember on waking up. But let me tell you (life), I will never give up.”

“If in the end animal instinct rules; why the hell  this pressure to be human????”

“It’s amazing to know that you see love with your eyes closed!”

“Life is lived in moments, and those moments live with u forever.”

“Some things are just not meant to be, more than life screwing us…its us screwing us!!!!!”

“It does not matter whether I am ok or not; it does not matter whether I am there or not; the only thing that matters is that, I  remain alive in your thoughts always!!”

“Sometimes everything is not enough. Having enough might still keep you deficient. And most of the times the deficiency is just perceptive. All that it means is that ignorance is a reality. But this reality is painful. And your only chance to remain happy is to go through all the pain. Alas that chance is just a hope!”

“Disorderliness is the precedent for every new order!”

“The source of smile and tears is always the same. Now I realize what GOD’s meant when they said, neither be too happy with something nor be too sad at something. But then I am just a lesser mortal. And so shedding a few tears for those bright smiles is absolutely ok!”

“There are no sins, only mistakes!”

“Fear creates doubt, fearlessness generates inquisitiveness. A method wherein trust and love are employed, rather than rankings and punishments is what I would want from my school”

“Alas! if I was taught ‘meanings’ first and than the words, may be than I would have ‘lived’ first and searched for ‘meanings’ (of life) later.”

“Why is it that most of us while ‘being good’ are generally not ‘being honest’????”

“WORDS if honest become a reflection of self; if dishonest they become a camouflage for self.”

“Often, in every endeavour, there comes a point when you tend to question your belief, you tend to revisit all that you were once passionate for; my contention is, what should be the basis of my choice at such a point??”

“Respect + gratefulness + consideration + humility = love… rest all is gimmickry”

“Why is it that what we live with is of least concern, while we cannot live for what we are truly concerned!?”

“The more importance you give to yourself, the more you are able to respect others. The more you see yourself, more satisfying your endeavors will be. Self – aware is what you become, Self-centered is what others will think that you have become.”

“If life’s a software application, and we all logged in, than shouldn’t there be a choice of ‘log out’!”

“Sometimes the best way to get is to give up!”

Quote at will.