‘Permanentisation’

11 08 2009

Among temporariness we seek permanence. The entire society collectively seeks this. Hence generally most temporary events or incidences are labeled anti-social.

Some examples to explain :

#1 : Take the case of inter gender attraction/liking ; suppose A likes B  person..A’s entire efforts would be to ‘permanentise’ the whole equation with B through ‘marriage’

If B has a thing for one night stands or flings…A’s gonna label B with some anti-social name.

Marriage is legal while Prostitution is illegal. The point is they both exist.

# 2 : Same holds true for any relation. Every relation is a method to make that temporary contact permanent. Friendship, soul mates, love, ‘you like my brother’…’you like my sister’ etc. are just means to seek permanence.

Ever wondered that new close inter gender friendships are rare post marriage. Reason being one cannot seek permanence any more, if they do…it generally becomes anti-social.

Formalities are acceptable while limitless indulgent relationships are not. However they both do exist.

# 3 : Being drunk and behaving a little rowdy on some Saturday night, is a youngsters temporary behaviour. That young guy or gal could be as sincere as anyone else otherwise. If at all a cop finds that person in that temporary state of being rowdy on the street, that might just get termed as ‘anti-social’. But than the society tends to ‘permanentise’ this phenomenon by providing pubs/discs, basically places to be rowdy!!

Pubbing is legal while Drinking in public place is anti social. They both exist.

#4 : Construction / blockage of any kind on a public road is illegal. But a shabby temple existing in d middle of the road is legal. The same temple came into existence as a temporary structure but than if it manages to permanentise itself, by means of faith, wish – full fill fundas, then it becomes socially acceptable.

#5 : In legal parlance Begging is a crime, its illegal. Even the society considers it as a malice. But then we have ‘permanentised’ it in various manners like subsidies, interest free loans, charitable donations, favours etc.

Accepting charity is legal, while begging is a social issue. They both exist.

# 6 : Over a horizon of  few centuries our existence is very temporary. Yet individually and even collectively we are oriented to ‘permanentise’ our lives.

Superman is acceptable while a ‘devdas’ is not socially acceptable. Both are our fantasies, but one of them is termed ‘anti social’.

I can go on and on with such examples. At this point I wish to make it clear that the idea is not ‘society bashing’. Even at very individual level this behaviour occurs. Rather it starts from the individual before it becomes a collective social phenomenon.

The question that comes up is why this happens?

I think it is basic human nature to seek permanence. Reason being the feelings of fear, insecurity and jealousy are so strong that the only way out for an individual is to ‘permanentise’.

So be it. All that I would comment is just not look down upon all that is  ‘anti social’. Its just a different perspective. And more importantly one never knows when it would be ‘permanentised’ !!!

Note : Nothing really is permanent. A permanent state is theoritical. It cannot exist. But the orientation to seek permanence, the idea of feeling secured with what is permanent is real. To describe this orientation as a cognitive process I could not find any word. So the term ‘PERMANENTISE’.

It currently does not have a dictionary meaning.

PS : The thoughts expressed is not an attempt to make a statement on human behaviour. This is just a perspective of an individual called me and that perspective too is temporary. Each situation described above can be viewed from different angles and new fundas can be created. Keep this in mind else the point will be missed.

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8 responses

11 08 2009
Nitu

Pubbing is legal while Drinking in public place is anti social. They both exist. – haha love it..true

Formalities are acceptable while limitless indulgent relationships are not. However they both do exist. – more so true in asian societies but so true

Construction / blockage of any kind on a public road is illegal. But a shabby temple existing in d middle of the road is legal. -:):)

mast example frm feelings to acts to non-human objects to fiction…. mast mihir.. i m glad gave all examaples

when i started reading i was how is mihir gonna explain the above statement, coz i had scratched myhead enough and thought not possible but after first example – i smiled – i was ya point but then i was like lets see if he can explain the same wid more examples but u did that too:)

best ofcourse:
just not look down upon all that is ‘anti social’. Its just a different perspective. And more importantly one never knows when it would be ‘permanentised’ !!!

no actually – best is:
The thoughts expressed is not an attempt to make a statement on human behaviour. This is just a perspective of an individual called me and that perspective too is temporary.

you are a blogger in my list -‘permanentised’ 🙂

11 08 2009
mihirgajrawala

thnks nitu for your generous feedback.

🙂

one more example could be blogging. its an act to permanentise my thoughts. But ya my thoughts aint anti social! 😛 or are they???

11 08 2009
Nitu

u really have doubts that your thoughts aren’t anti-social :):P

11 08 2009
siddharth soni

Hmm… You open quite a few doors at the same time. What you say ‘permanence’ is what is formally called sometimes ritual, sometimes institution, sometimes habit and so on… Over time, the individual/society identifies what works, what doesn’t, what helps, what doesn’t, what’s secure, what isn’t. What works is made a habit. What helps is made a ritual or an institution. What’s secure is made a law and so on…

11 08 2009
Neha

Yes!! I fully agree…Superman IS anti-social !! Stupid fellow…flying here and there n distracting ppl. 😉
But nice examples u gave.
N i also feel..ppl get a chance to show off their power too and they can’t do it until they have some sort of permanent setting..some sort of limits set..like..how wud a cop get a chance to showoff..unless he gets hold of rowdy ppl? Or a wealthy person..giving away donation,a man going to a prostitute and feeling..i am the boss…
And yes..ppl who like permanence r lazy too..hahaha..too lazy to try new things. 🙂

11 08 2009
Neha

Forgot to mention…Nitu and Me..V r ur “Permanent” blog reader…though its illigal and anti-social on ur part to torture poor us…hahahaha…And even after all these..V both still Exist..:)

12 08 2009
Nitu

yes neha 100% wid u – reading your blogs is anti-social;) lol but we both exist:)

12 08 2009
Uditi

mihir, very nice and elaborate examples. you have put ‘thinking’ in looking at many things with one perspective. change and permanence are paradoxical. The quote — ‘Change: the only thing that is permanent in life.’

to me it (permanence & change) is like a cycle. everything comes out of chaos, then we discipline it to make it a system and we realize that after a while the rules we made doesn’t apply anymore and it is chaos again which calls for change and new rules again. this cycle is sure permanent but the system is always to change. in HR organizations & society are called systems- a very good book by Peter Senge ‘5th discipline’ talks about the approach ‘systems thinking’

i guess to exist cohesively we need permanence it put things in order, little easier and more complex for the times to come. again, both change & permanence concepts are very intriguing!

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